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Meeting an Author

Posted on December 5th, 2010 by Kristen Paulsen

Recently in our Mother Daughter Book Club we were able to meet a Duke grad/NC Author, Christy English.   Although her historical fiction books were not appropriate for the girls this age, she suggested a book to read for that particular month that had an impact on her when she was around 11 or 12 years of age.  It was the Caldecott book, The Hero and the Crown, by Robin McKinley.

This was such a neat experience for my tween and the two other girls who were able to attend.  My tween loves to read and write and being able to talk to a published author was very exciting.  Although the girls did not like the genre of book choosen, we were able to talk about why she liked it as it had a female heroine.  We talked of other books they read that they felt had a female heroine in it.

Questions ensued about when she first started writing, did she keep her writings, how she started the whole process, why the genre she writes about, etc.  The mothers were just as curious and had questions about the whole process and it was fascinating.  It was good to have the girls realize that the authors behind the books are real people and have gifts given to them with words.  Even Christy said, “it is like the characters picked me to be their voice and tell their story.”

When we started this book club two years ago, we had no idea of outstretching benefits the girls would have.  Many thought it was social.  However, it has become one of learning of different genres of books, getting to know people more and their interests, it has been learning of different historical periods, it has been enhanced reading and analytical skills, it has been progressed AR skills, it has been amazing.  It has allowed my daughter and I another connection of sharing and fills a void in my life that I once had in book clubs prior to children.  It has given me a renewed appreciation for reading and books.

Have you ever taken your child to meet an author or illustrator?  Have you had a chance to meet an author?  Have you ever dreamt of writing a book?

kristen-paulsen

In My Daughter’s Eyes

Posted on November 28th, 2010 by Kristen Paulsen

I love the song by Martina McBride called, “In My Daughter’s Eyes.”  It describes the relationship that I see, the hope, the faith, the trust, the optimism, the complete feelings my daughter and I share.  I feel very blessed for my tween and her younger sister and of course my son.  This post will focus on the bonds mothers share with their daughters.

Here are the lyrics to the song:

In my daughter’s eyes I am a hero
I am strong and wise and I know no fear
But the truth is plain to see
She was sent to rescue me
I see who I wanna be
In my daughter’s eyes

In my daughter’s eyes everyone is equal
Darkness turns to light and the
world is at peace
This miracle God gave to me
gives me strength when I am weak
I find reason to believe
In my daughter’s eyes

And when she wraps her hand
around my finger
It puts a smile in my heart
Everything becomes a little clearer
I realize what life is all about

It’s hangin’ on when your heart
has had enough
It’s giving more when you feel like giving up
I’ve seen the light
It’s in my daughter’s eyes

In my daughter’s eyes I can see the future
A reflection of who I am and what will be
Though she’ll grow and someday leave
Maybe raise a family
When I’m gone I hope you see how happy
she made me
For I’ll be there
In my daughter’s eyes

Studies are quick to show the resiliency of the mother daughter bond.  It is unique in the sense that mothers will always continue to mother and daughters will always continue to seek approval and need that connection regardless of age.  They relate to more emotions, feelings and experiences.  When I look at my daughter I am reminded of so many of my own childhood experiences and emotions.  I know a little more when to back off and not to push or when to be more lenient.  I am grateful for all mothers biological or not who show loves, provide counsel , advice and love.  I am grateful to be a mother of daughters and my son.

What are some of the bonds you share with your tween girls or your own mother?  Has it been influential to you as a mother?

heidi-russell

Parent or Coach…Tough Call!!

Posted on November 16th, 2010 by Heidi Russell

Another soccer season down….full of lots of happy memories!!

This year, my tween had his Dad as a parent and a Coach for his soccer team.  It was a really great experience!  We had a team full of sweet and very talented tween boys (and a couple girls).  It was probably the most fun we have had with a soccer team for Lincoln so far.  The parents were awesome, the kids were awesome and all three Coaches were great guys!

There was also a down side to it all.  When you have little children AND your husband is the Coach, it makes it a lot harder.  I hardly got to watch Lincoln play at all.  I was either chasing the baby or watching my daughter’s games.  I was tired and burned out!  Maybe there is just a time and a season for this.  Maybe it will be a lot more fun for my husband to Coach when my kids are older and life isn’t so physically demanding!

At the end of the day, it was a really wonderful memory.  Lincoln loved his Dad being the Coach, it was a great experience for Matt and we had such a great group of boys together.

On the flip side, I think I got a couple gray hairs in the process.  It was a little bit too much for me to handle.  But, like all things, I survived and learned some great life lessons in the process!!  I love being a Mom and all the STRESS and wonderful things it teaches me!

Have you had any experiences with Coaching as a parent?  What valuable lessons have you learned?

kelly-gump

Move Over Mom……

Posted on October 26th, 2010 by Kelly Gump

We took a short trip this weekend to DC and we were able to see my husband. He has been away at school since September and it has been about a month since he was able to visit us here at home. The boys (and I) were excited, but I was not prepared for how quickly I would be replaced. When they were younger, even after 14 month deployments, mom was still #1. Well….the times are a changin!

Happy Boys

Everywhere we went it was “I want to sit next to dad” or “I want to hold dad’s hand.”  Needless to say, my husband was thrilled! He has often shared that he had some slight jealousy issues with how close the boys always have been to me. With so much time spent away from us over the years, that was to be expected I suppose. Now that the boys are tweens, I think their reliance on mom is a little less and Kerry has been home about ten months now and that is a record for us :)

Even though it was a shock to my system, it was really nice to see how happy all three of them were….holding hands all around DC. Jake got to Share the Marine Corps Museum with Kerry and Sam was overjoyed with the little gift Kerry brought him when we all met up in VA. I hope deployments are truly behind us and the boys can keep building a relationship with their dad. I know I am important to them but I also know that boys need a dad.

Are your tweens close to your spouse? Any other military moms out there with deployment stories?

heidi-russell

School Update for My 2nd Grader

Posted on October 13th, 2010 by Heidi Russell

The school year is officially under-way!  My second grade tweeny-bopper is doing quite well.  I home schooled him last year, so I was very interested as to how the transition would go for both him and me.

Lincoln loves being in school.  He is thriving both academically and socially.  He is working really hard and his teacher challenges him and inspires him to achieve his full potential.

When it comes to academics, he is right on target.  At the same time, I have carefully watched and have seen a few things we could probably work on here at home.  I think it is time to break out the subtraction flash cards.  I feel if he can increase his speed he would be able to get through his work both quickly and thoroughly.

I smile when I see him come home with grass stains on his jeans.  He has started playing football games at recess and is loving that.

He communicates openly with me and I enjoy hearing his stories and frustrations.  I am so happy with how things are going!

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On the other side of the spectrum…I have gone from busy days of home school, to a nice schedule…..

- pick up carpool and venture off to school

- hit the gym for a workout

- errands, playgroup or home

- nap time for baby, time for me to get things done that need to be done

- baby wakes up and kids carpool drops them off at home

- after school snacks and homework

- soccer practice or spend the evening playing outside

- get kids to bed

My life is very scheduled, my kids are happy and love their routine!  I am happy and feel like I can be the Mom that I want to be to my kids.

Transition = Successful!!




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